I have spent all night trying to get this post up. I have lost 3 versions. Something has changed about the posting format and I can’t figure it out. I am tired and so this will be much shorter than originally planned. My intent was to do a post on Love but without poetry or any of the flowery trappings normally associated with LOVE. I wanted to be more practical to see if there were any chance of actually describing the word or defining it. So, I began with the dictionary; LOVE is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. Seems reasonable. But, what about that first moment when you look into the eyes of a stranger, and you recognize them, like you have been there before? What about the feeling you get when you’re around someone that you just can’t bare to be without, you have to call them all the time, and you rush home to see them because you can’t bare being without them. I think it’s going to take a little more defining. This whole post began because I have been overwhelmed lately by outpourings of Love that I never expected would ever happen in my life. People are my favorite thing, they never seem to disappoint. (ok maybe sometimes, but never boring)
Anyway, then there is the adult way of looking at Love, you know the fact that Love is a passionate commitment that we nurture, and develop, and grow with as it evolves. We know that it is more than just a powerful feeling. Without the commitment, it’s just infatuation. Without the passion, it is only dedication. Without nurturing even the greatest of loves can wither and die. And so we blindly stumble forward still unsure of exactly what love is. The paradox of love is that it comes to you as “supremely” freeing, and yet it attaches us with bonds stronger than death. Funny how that works.
I love what Jojo Moyes (the romance novelist) says about the subject, she says; “What love is, depends upon where you are in relation to it. Secure in it, it can feel as mundane and necessary as air, you exist within it, almost unnoticing. Deprived of it, it can feel like an obsession, all consuming, and manifesting itself in actual physical pain. It is the point just before consummation of it, that truly fascinates us.” I’d say she has very good point and takes yet another step in helping us to understand that we really don’t know how to explain Love at all. Love is more easily experienced than defined……
However, as a Theological virtue, by which we love God above all things and our neighbors as ourselves, it seems a little “far off” until we encounter it in some one else. You know, like when you witness acts of kindness, or generosity, or even self sacrifice, until you see it in some one else. It is in those moments that we are reminded of what we are missing (or already have) and become determined to do something about it. Love, is the one thing that can never hurt anyone, although it may cost a person, a whole lot, in a lot of different ways, but it can never “really” hurt anyone. It is a voice that does not use words….
For me, personally, I think LOVE is our greatest blessing, in that we take it on “faith”, and it is in that “leap of faith”, in ANY experience, that is the greatest and wisest gift of all. Faith is an unseen force that drives everything, including evolution. And if you have been following my blog, then you know I believe wholeheartedly that as human beings we are constantly evolving and that faith is the key to that equation. So if LOVE is on your mind, just remember it doesn’t need to make any sense at all if you have “faith.” With a little faith you can change the world my friends……..I am Dartanion2…….and that’s the way I see it…………cheers…..t xx
Very nice blog my friend. I admire the theological/philosophical outlook on it.
Alternatively there is also the scientific/chemical view of Love..described as : an
internal chemical response to outer stimulus, which causes hormonal secretions
to stimulate certain sensory orifices within our Brain. (sounds grim I know.)
In the scientific view, (which is often less popular because of it’s rote underpinnings)
Love is a necessary by-product of evolution which furthers the propagation of a
species, and fosters that sense of group-belonging others feel.
I like to think however that there is something more spiritual at play, and that
emotions cannot be reduced to the firing (or misfiring) of trans-synaptic impulses.
LOL….thanks Doc…you are a very interesting soul my friend, who goes around using terminology like trans-synaptic impulses? you’re a bookworm and a genious, you need some fun bro….just unplug for a while…….but of course you’re right, I could have been a little more thorough. Don’t ever leave here………smiles…..t xx
Our soul is where love is T` I believe we are all born with the love of God in our souls and that is how he gives us the ability to learn how to love each other and how to teach each other how important love is for the welbeing of mankind.
Truly the most beautiful love of all is the love we experience when we have children. The bond that develops when a child is born and the love we feel is the absolute true and natural love we could possibly ever feel. The love we feel for our partners in life is just as important but it is a different love from that of having a child, that is when you know and experience true love and that is the love that God wants us to feel. True physical and emotional enduring love is the love our relatioships develop over time.
Never be afraid to show love as it doesn`t cost anything and it will always make you and the person that you love feel comforted emotionally as well as physically. I sincerely mean it when I tell you that I love you, even though I have not met you in person yet. I felt a connection with you immediately from within my soul and my inner light,( my sixth sense) I always trust my sixth sense as it has never proved to be wrong. I simply told you the truth of how I felt. I get immence satisfaction from the love we have for each other, and just knowing that I have been able to make you smile makes me feel very blessed and very lucky.
I have said this many times to you and I will say it again that we were meant to find each other and I know that we have known each other in a past life sweety. The comforting words that we all give each other on cosmo are a form of love and you can see how much that cheers us all up.
You and I will stay best friends forever T` you have my word on that. The saying `love makes the world go round is certainly true, don`t you agree?
I love you sweety, G xx
Georgie, yours is a very rare soul…..and I too knew we would be friends, just not as quickly as you did. But then I don’t have the gifts that you do either. I am blessed to have found you and I look forward to our video chat…..THAT should be most interesting………..hugs-n-kisses…….t xx
DO YOU BELIEVE IN LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT?
Here is my experience of it first hand!
I was 26 and had gone to the local pub with my friend. We had great difficulty finding a seat untill a very good looking gentleman offered me his seat. The place was full to bursting with men as it was Friday night, they traditionally all head for the pub on a Friday for what they call lads night!
I suddenly felt a shiver right down my spine and FELT!! someone watching me. I turned around and looked behind me! And there was that same handsome young man with a beautiful smile and he was looking straight at me. This made me blush as red as a cherry but I instantly said to myself ” I`m going to marry him next June!! ” this was on the third of September 1984. I got up and went to powder my nose!! and when I came back out he was standing there waiting for me. He smiled at me and said ” Hi my name is Geoff ” I said hi and told him my name and invited him to dinner for the following evening. That is the first and only time I have ever asked a man out for a date as I am painfully shy and always have been…! But I knew in my heart that I had to be brave and wanted to do it this time!!
The night of our date was fabulous and when I went home I put a heart next to a date in my diary! New Years Eve that Christmas!! and I put two little interlocking circle`s inside it. I also put a heart next to the 28th September, then again for the 1st of June 1985, the little heart with the two interlocking circles.
I was totally head over heels in love with him from the first time that he gave me that beautiful smile on the 3rd of September 1984 and I knew that I wouldn`t have to tell him first. We dated every Tuesday and Thursday evenings and I litterally lived for those dates each week. I was the happiest girl on earth from that very first smile that he gave me!
The 28th September soon arrived and we went out to dinner and that was when he told me that he was in love with me and had been since the night he saw me in the pub. I was so thrilled that I could finally tell him the same. That was the reason I put the heart next to that date on the 4th previously, because I knew the night I first met him that he would tell me he loved me on the 28th.
New Years Eve arrived! and he wouldn`t tell me where we were going that night! He took me to a really beautiful castle that is a hotel and we had a lovely meal. I knew what was going to happen there, and when I sat down I put my little diary on top of my purse.
Geoff went to the bar to order drinks and came and sat down. The waiter came over with a big bottle of champagne and two crystal flutes. He opened the bottle for us and then Geoff handed me a flute of the champagne. The waiter then came back to us with a huge beautiful bouqet of red roses. Then Geoff got down on one knee and took hold of my hand and proposed to me as he slipped a beautiful diamond ring on my finger. I instantly said yes and then I cried with sheer happiness. Then the whole restauraunt stood up, raised their glasses, cheered and clapped their hands, as he`d told the manager that he was going to propose to me. I had a dream about a castle on Christmas eve.
It was then that I opened my diary and pointed out what I had drawn next to the date. The two little wedding rings in the middle of the heart. His face was a real picture to see. He said ” I`m never going to be able to surprise you am I? ” I replied ” Ofcause you will, I`ll just switch off the vibes I get for special dates!!! ” We got married six months later!! I asked him to choose the date and to tell me when he had organised it. He chose the first of June and again I showed him my little diary and what I`d put on that date!!
That is what happened to me and it certainly proved that love at first sight is real. We will be celebrating our 30th Ruby anniversary next June and we have four boys and two girls and eleven grandchildren. He does surprise me regularly because he is very loving and so romantic and I feel like the luckiest girl in the world. Our guardian angels have certainly worked very hard and so lovingly for us both all our married life and I wouldn`t part with Geoff for all the tea in China! as the old saying goes!!
G xx
Here`s a little something for you romantics out there!!
Take two warm hearts
Blend in a good helping of romance.
Simmer on a flame that`s slow and gentle
Then add a generous portion of love and desire.
Gently fold in kindness and compassion
Then add warmth and devotion
And season with laughter and hope.
Cover with affection
Mould into one
Then garnish with two precious souls.
Then serve with a big bottle of Gods happy blessings.
Love G xx
Hi G, this is great just remember we’ve got a special place upcoming for your poetry….this is really romantic….and just for everyone’s info. you can view Georgina’s poetry at cosmofunnel.com where she graces the pages with grace and Style …. smiles…..t xx
Thank you T` I didn`t realise you had that little plan up your sneaky sleeves honey!! Eeh heck I can`t wait for that! What a compliment you have just given me, you`ve just put a really big smile on my chops now and I`m blushing like a silly school girl!!!!
I love you honey
G xx